I observed my parents do almost everything with force. They moved through emotions with force: love, anger, grief, disappointment, boredom. Since I didn’t know any different, I learned to navigate the world with force as my greatest attribute and the stronger I seeded myself into this role, the easier it became to push harder without recognition. So much so that even when I am attempting to help someone, it is often too forceful to make impact.
When force is used well, I am a powerhouse.
When force is used poorly, I am a destroyer.
How can I separate the notion of power deriving solely from force? How can I use force without creating destruction?
Since I love the idea of working smarter, not harder, maybe I can ask this question, “How can I make my presence felt with less effort?” Creating efficiency, for me, is not seen as weakness. It’s powerful in a strategic way.
Redefining Power
“I am powerful because I know when to apply strength and when to hold stillness.”
“I use force like a scalpel, not a hammer–sharp, precise, and only when necessary.”
“I am powerful not because I push hard, but because I know when to push, when to pull, and when to stand still.”
New Narrative
“When force is required, I apply it with clarity, purpose, and control. My power now comes from knowing when to push and when to push pause.”
