I believe Hummingbird is teaching me a few things.
Honor My Limits Without Guilt
It’s not my job to carry someone across the threshold. It’s my job to open the door and stay honest about whether I can remain standing there without burning out. Anger often shows up when I’ve stayed too long past my boundary.
What part of me is trying to rescue them?
What am I sacrificing to keep trying?
What would change if I stopped?
Give Frustration Room to Speak Without Taking Over The Conversation
Anger is clarity in disguise. It says: “This is not working for me.” Let it tell myself what I need, what’s not okay, and where I feel unseen. Then choose a response that’s rooted in love for myself, not punishment for them.
I can feel anger without becoming it.
Detach With Compassion
I can still love someone and not carry the weight of their choices. I can hold a vision for them without holding the consequences of their actions. Letting go of the outcome doesn’t mean giving up, it means giving space.
I am not abandoning them. I’m stepping back so that they can meet their own edge.
They Have To Choose Freedom
I can’t force insight. I can’t make someone see what they’re not ready to see. The cycle will only break when they chooses to turn toward the door. Until then, my energy is better spent on staying grounded in my own clarity and peace.
I don’t have to keep flying into the window with them.
This is what I’ve been carrying.
It is heavy with love, and heavy with pain.
I honor the part of me that tried so hard to help.
And I honor my truth: I cannot carry this anymore.I have tried. I have stayed. I have opened every door I know how to open.
Now, I return to myself.
Their freedom is theirs to choose. My peace is mine to keep.I release this cycle. I release the ache of trying.
I release them to their path.
I return my hands to myself,
Open, empty, and free.I can love them without losing myself.
I choose truth, and I choose rest.
I trust that if they want the door, they will find it.And until then, I choose peace.
